chose your actions

My wife has been teaching 1st grade for many years, it has always fascinated me how she could control 20 6 year olds.
I was in her class the other day and I watched with amazement. She asked this 1 child, Why did you chose to act out. Child as the rest of us would say, "I don't know". Well, she immediately said, I expect you to chose your actions before you do them and consider what will happen if you make the wrong choice.

Well this has made a tremendous effect on my bridge game & I know it will yours. Before I start getting angry with my partner for doing something that I don’t agree with ( right or wrong) I chose not to get angry, I control my emotions. We can discuss the defense or the bidding later, make a note of it. The anger that builds up inside is an emotion that you can control. Chose to control your feelings. How important is this scenario? Screaming DIRECTOR or even screaming Director please, loud enough to scare everyone within 6 tables of where your sitting is not an acceptable form of communication. So what if the person revoked, lead out of turn or did something else that requires a professional ruling. Chose to control your emotions, lower your blood pressure and relax. You still should call the director but chose to control your emotions. Call him as you would call over a friend.
I want all these kitchen bridge players to take a different view of duplicate. Each one of us on an individual basis are the only ones that can bring them back to playing at our clubs. Don't be an emotional basket case. Chose your actions